A Proposal I Never Thought I'D Consider
Article 28A Proposal I Never Thought I'd Consider
A young South Asian woman born in Britain and grew up in a small town in the Mojave Desert and currently resides in California is now faced with arranged marriage. Being the product of two cultures, Pakistani and Islam beckon her with security, familiarity and ease with an arranged marriage. According to the article, by agreeing to an arranged marriage, she could more easily satisfy her religious obligations to abstain from intimacy with the opposite six until marriage. She would be participating in the ceremony of a culture 11,000 miles removed. Following through with an arranged marriage she would spare her parents the criticism they would face if their daughter chose her own path: barbs from three generations of extended family, all of whom accepted their own arranged marriages without argument.
She is to begin the process next month when her parents contact Muslim family friends around the world and give them the criteria that is need for a possible husband. A twenty something, classically handsome, Urdu-speaking Muslim man who is 6 feet tall, with an MD and MBA, as well as a PhD in something respectable like molecular toxicology. He must have a good sense of family and a financial portfolio fat enough to take care of the next fifteen generations. Then the parents will screen the candidates, and after she graduates from college, they will introduce her to the men they deem best. She will meet her parents' choices and pick those who interest her. With each man, after a month of chaperoned dating, phone calls, no physical contact and little understanding of whether they would mesh, she is suppose to decide whether to marry him.
After weeks of thinking and talking to her parents she decided she would have an arranged marriage. She chose to have an arranged marriage because she kept thinking about her parents' anguish if she refuses to honor their wishesshe stated...
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